Fight Their Battles…
Posted by Brandi Wilson
There’s been a post bouncing around in my head for a few months. Sometimes I like to live with an idea so I can figure out how to say it… however, I still don’t feel that I’ve found the best way to say this one. So, here it goes.
You really don’t need to repeat every bad thing that’s said about someone to them.
Let me explain a little better. I truly believe that part of friendship, part of serving on a church staff together is choosing to speak up for one another. But the lines are easily blurred between what you choose to repeat and what you choose not to repeat. Sometimes people need to be aware of what’s said for their own protection. There is a high value in protection.
But I also feel strongly that as a friend when I’m in a situation when I hear someone talking negatively about a fellow staff member I’m called to take up for them. I’m also called to challenge the person doing the negative talking to go to the person they have the issue with and talk through the dissension.
Part of being a friend, a sister in Christ, is fighting a battle for you (even a battle you might not know exists). I don’t have to repeat everything to you… but I do have to protect you.
Hearing everything negative that is said about you is tough… surround yourself with people you know are in it with you, through the good and the bad. Look out for your fellow staff and staff wives. If it’s not uplifting think twice before you repeat it to them.
It’s one of those ideas that sounds super simple, but in the moment doubt can creep in, Satan can play with your head and make you double guess what’s being said. Focus on the Holy Spirit nudging your heart.
Loyal is a term that is thrown around a lot these days… being loyal doesn’t mean relaying all conversations that can destroy. To me it means being a friend who’s safe… whether I’m around or not.
And here’s a side note, a kinda “freebie.” For me personally when people describe themselves to me as “safe” I’m always a bit leery. “Safe” is based on experience… not verbal proclamation.
I’m curious to hear your thoughts. And remember, this is a safe place! 😉