Posted by Brandi Wilson
One of the things we discussed while together was the blurry lines that come when we’re trying to separate being a leader and being a friend. For instance, if I’m having a tough coversation with someone, when or how do I know to take off my “pastor’s wife” hat and switch to my “friend” hat, or vice versa. Because my response between the two is more than likely going to be different. It’s a blurry line between the two.
And ultimately we can’t blame those we’re dealing with because they aren’t even aware we’re vacillating between the two roles, they don’t realize the predictament we’re in. They aren’t aware we’re torn.
Of course, one of the big determining factors is how close the friendship is, but even then lines are still blurry. Recently I have gotten to the point where there are times I can sweetly ask, “Right now, do you want me to respond as your pastor’s wife or as your friend?” But sometimes the conversation isn’t that easy.
What about you guys? I’d love to hear how this works in your own lives. What tips do you have when making a decision about whether to wear the pastor’s wife hat or the friend hat?