A trip back to 2008 …
Posted by Tiffany Cooper
… I took a walk down memory lane this week. As I sat in bed with my laptop, I read through my husband’s old blog posts. Crazy enough, it felt similar to looking through my old baby pictures or high school year book. Thoughts passed through my mind…I was so young. Oh, I remember when that happened. We’ve learned so much since then. Then I came across a few of the guest blog posts I wrote for him. Today I’m sharing a blog post I wrote in 2008 titled “My Role as a Pastor’s Wife”. I remember this season. My kids were 4,3,1 and a baby on the way. I was immersed in toddler life. Ministry life was full of transitions and new milestones. It still feels like a blur recalling that season of life.
My Role as a Pastor’s Wife (Post from May 2008)
What is the role of a pastor’s wife? Thankfully, there is not a “one size fits all” mold for pastors’ wives. When we started People’s Church 6 years ago, I put every ounce of my energy into serving in any capacity I could. I loved it! When my first son was born (2003), I went through a difficult transition that altered my role as pastor’s wife.
I had to work through 3 issues:
1. Identity. Who am I? I realized that I found a great deal of identity in being ultra-involved in ministry. Once Cale was born my involvement decreased dramatically and I found myself questioning who I was. I was no longer a full-time school teacher, children’s church teacher, small group leader…the list goes on.
2. Purpose. What impact do I have on the Kingdom as a stay-at-home mom? I struggled with feeling insignificant. How could I make a difference if I was at home doing the “mommy thing” all day?
3. Outsider. I went from being in the inner circle to feeling like the outsider. I was no longer “in the know” about everything. It was hard to accept that others would know more than I did about certain aspects of the church and that others would be more involved than me.
I spent many moments talking with God about my struggles. It was easy to know my true identity and purpose in my mind, but it took a year for it to be solidified in my heart. I had to truly accept who I was in Christ, not the roles I liked to wear like a badge of honor. I now find freedom in the deep conviction that my first priority behind my walk with Christ is to be Herbert’s wife. My days are dedicated to raising my precious kids and instilling a love for God in their hearts. I serve in the children’s ministry every Sunday and attend a Community Group. I truly love this season of my life and would not change one thing! Besides, I’m confident that my best years of ministry are still ahead!
Life brings seasons of change and moments of transition. What are some of the defining transitions you’ve experienced in life and ministry? My big transition was finding value and purpose in being a daughter of God, not in the titles I possessed.