When to say yes.

Posted by: Jessica Cornelius


How do you know what to say ‘yes’ to? This is one of the questions many women that live busy lives continually ask. After meeting with several godly women in ministry, this is some of the advice they have given.

1. “ I should have said no to the things I could have said no to.” This statement came from someone who is much further along in ministry than all of us. I value her wisdom because she is at a point in life where she can look back at where most of us are now. Learning from her warning is better than learning the hard way.

2. Before you say yes to anything, think through everything it is going to take to make it happen. Look at your calendar and see what you have going on before and after the particular event you are being invited to. Looking at the invite from a broader perspective will help you see if you are going to have the energy and time to fit the event into your schedule. Of course, we all think we can say yes when we just look at the event isolated from all of the other things we have to do.

3. Don’t say yes when you are tired or rushed. You won’t make good decisions.

4. Check your motives. Make sure you are being governed by the Holy Spirit, not guilt or people pleasing.

5. Give of your time cheerfully, not with resentment. 2 Corinthians 9:7 says, “Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.” This verse also applies to the giving of our time.

Ask yourself if six months from now you will be glad you said yes. If you can tell you are going to be dreading the fact that you said yes, every day until the day comes, do not say yes! You will rob yourself of so much joy just by thinking about how mad you are that you said yes.

How do you know when to say yes?

2 thoughts on “When to say yes.

  1. Michelle Meeks

    Love this wisdom Jessica! Thank you I am definitely committing this to memory. xoxo

  2. Danielle Newsome

    This is so good Jessica! Such a great reminder for me as I get ready to head into another busy school year. I am my worst problem…I make myself feel guilty so often that I get myself into things I shouldn’t!

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