Help, I blame ministry.
Posted by Tiffany Cooper
What do you do when your spouse feels called to ministry and you wish they didn’t? Where do you channel your feelings of dislike? Do you punish your spouse? Do you try to make them feel miserable enough to quit? It’s easy to unfairly blame the ministry for our own self-imposed misery.
Common areas we tend to wrongfully place blame on ministry:
Blame: We never have quality time together.
Reality: We are putting the needs of the ministry above our family needs. We blame the ministry for our lack of planning and lack of boundaries. We have to make time for our family.
Blame: Life would be easier if my spouse had another profession.
Reality: Ministry is hard because life is hard. The grass looks greener on the other side until you get over there and realize they also have high (maybe higher) expectations from your spouse. A new job will not magically create a challenge-free life full of quality time together.
Blame: I’m lonely because of the ministry.
Reality: Ministry does have it’s own set of unique friendship hurdles. On the flip side, most women struggle on some level with friendships regardless of their profession. A recent study found that most people have 2 close friends. I don’t know about you, but because of ministry, I have more than 2 close friends. If you don’t, Leading and Loving It is a great place to develop friendships with women who understand your life.
Over the next couple of weeks, we are going to discuss how to change our perspective and replace ministry misery with happiness. We’ll also tackle some of the tough issues, including those mentioned today, with honesty.
Can you think of other areas we tend to wrongfully place blame on the ministry? Or, are there really areas where ministry creates misery? Let’s be real. We want to hear your thoughts!