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Pirate Parenting: Authority

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Posted by Lori Wilhite

There is no other book, Bible Study, or ministry that has made a greater impact on my life as a mom than Julie Richard and Fearlessmom.com With practical, yet powerful content, she has encouraged me like no other in my family life. Her insight in establishing a vision for our families and training our children’s hearts has absolutely transformed me as a mother.

Over the next 5 weeks, we will share the incredible Pirate Parenting series by Fearless Mom. No matter where you are in your mom journey… expecting your first baby, chasing toddlers and pre-schoolers, managing school-age kids, navigating life with teenagers, learning to live with step-children, or parenting adult children… this series is for you, your ConnectLIVE or ConnectLOCAL group, and small group or women’s ministry at your church.

Each Monday, we will post the video, the PDF of the notes and scripture memory cards to be printed and enjoyed.

Soon, Fearless mom will launch into their new ministry season, and you can subscribe to have their parenting videos sent directly to your inbox each Friday. Incredible! CLICK HERE The best parenting materials out there, straight to you! Pass this resource on to your friends, family, and church gals.

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Pirate Parenting with Fearless Mom

FM_graphic980x250Posted by Lori Wilhite

There is no other book, Bible Study, or ministry that has made a greater impact on my life as a mom than Julie Richard and Fearlessmom.com

For years, Julie has been my go-to parenting guru. The Senior Pastor’s Wife at Lake Hills Church in Austin, Julie has raised two incredible, Jesus-loving kids. With practical, yet powerful content, she has encouraged me like no other in my family life. Her insight in establishing a vision for our families and training our children’s hearts has absolutely transformed me as a mother.

Over the next 5 weeks, we will share the incredible Pirate Parenting series by Fearless Mom. No matter where you are in your mom journey… expecting your first baby, chasing toddlers and pre-schoolers, managing school-age kids, navigating life with teenagers, learning to live with step-children, or parenting adult children… this series is for you.

Dive in on your own, watch while you’re getting ready in the morning, and take leaps in helping your children embrace authority, responsibility, gratitude, and honor. Grab your ConnectLIVE or ConnectLOCAL group. Watch, discuss, and encourage one another in your role as mom. Hop on the couch with a small group at your church or pull together your women’s ministry and church and jump in together.

Each Monday, we will post the video and the PDF of the notes for you to print out. During weeks 2-5, we will also post scripture memory cards to be printed and enjoyed.

Soon, Fearless mom will launch into their new ministry season, and you can subscribe to have their parenting videos sent directly to your inbox each Friday. Incredible! CLICK HERE The best parenting materials out there, straight to you! Pass this resource on to your friends, family, and church gals.

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Re:treat 2015

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Are you a Pastor’s Wife? A ministry wife? Serving on a church staff? Running a Christian non-profit? A missionary? If so, then this retreat is designed specifically for you. Re:treat Nashville 2015 is about CONNECTING, ENCOURAGING, and EQUIPPING women in ministry and leadership.

Re:treat is one of my favorite things we do here at Leading and Loving It. It is what takes our virtual community to an in-person community. It is a place where we get to sit with each other eye to eye and heart to heart.

This year we have:

6 amazing speakers including Lori Wilhite, Brandi Wilson, Lisa Harper, Tara Jenkins, Lisa Young, and Julie Richard.

6 insightful breakouts including

Overwhelmed: Making and Maintaining Margin

Did God Make a Mistake with Me? Not Letting Fear, Shame and Insecurity Steal Our Calling

Heartbroken: Leading When Your Heart is Wounded

First Things First: Not Sacrificing Our Families on the Altar of Ministry

Call Me Crazy: Leading Yourself and Others Through Depression, Anxiety and Mental Health Struggles

Dirigiendo Con Amor: For Women in Spanish Speaking Ministry

 

A Pastor’s track with Pete Wilson

Exciting surprises and lots of fun planned!

 

Join us in Nashville, November 10-12 for an amazing time of community and growth.

For more information about Re:treat details, speakers, hotel information, and to register: click here.

If you’ve been to a Leading and Loving It Re:treat before, what did you enjoy most?

His Name Is Noah

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“The days are long but the years are short,” I’ve heard it said to describe parenting. As a new mom, I remember dreaming about the 8:00 bedtime in order to regroup for the next day of raising little people who would cry and laugh within the same minute which would potentially make me cry and laugh within the same minute.

Those were some long days.

But then those crazy, erratic terrible two-year olds became five-year olds who questioned everything and they turned into ten-year olds who are helpful and sweet and still thought you were the cat’s meow but never seemed to be short on energy while you often were.

Those were some long days.

Then he turned 12 and pulled away and decided he was smarter than his parents and copped an attitude once or 37 times a day for about 1,000 days. He rolled his eyes at you more than dice gets rolled in Vegas. He didn’t understand why he “couldn’t just do what everyone else his age was doing.”

Those were some long days.

But he came back to you. You don’t know what triggered his return or even the day it happened, but it happened. He stopped being so annoyed with you. Kudos to you, Mom, for not being so annoying anymore.

He is 16 today.

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And these 16 years have been the shortest years of my life.

In many ways I have waited for this day to arrive. For it’s very entrance into my life means that I will save a lot of gas, have less miles to drive and not clock nearly as many hours in my Toyota Highlander. Because he won’t need me to take him to church or to work or to meet up with some friends.

And while I’ll have more hours to myself and less chauffeuring, I will miss out on those conversations that we had. Sometimes heated ones, sometimes not. I will miss the spiritual conversations we had during that 18 minute trek to his work and the 13 minute jaunt to our LifeChurch.tv campus. As annoying as it is, I’ll miss how loud he plays his music.

But this new season, this new place in life for him is good. He is doing exactly what he is supposed to be doing – growing up. He’s becoming a man right in front of my eyes. And while it’s an amazing thing to watch, the wing spreading, it is not easy for this momma’s heart who prayed for this child to enter her womb for 4 years. Not easy at all.

These last 16 years have been tremendous. He has grown. I have grown. It has been so good, so rich. And ya wanna know the thing I’m excited about now?

Waiting to see how God is going to use him in this world. Because I have no doubt that Noah Christopher Beall is becoming exactly who God wants him to become.

 

 

Do Not Disturb?


Do Not DisturbWritten by Liz Sarno

Pastors Ed & Lisa Young have a powerful statement on their C3 website that sums up what life in ministry is all about.

“Ministry is the greatest calling anyone can have! It’s a guaranteed courtside seat to the power and beauty of life change. But the reality is that ministry is also brutal. The challenges, obstacles, betrayal, and opposition can, at times, seem overwhelming. To drill it down to one word, ministry is BRUTIFUL!”

The beautiful side is amazing, fulfilling and fun! However, the brutal side can sometimes be overwhelming and painful. The things we experience in ministry, combined with the challenges of life in general, can cause a myriad of emotions that make us want to go be alone on a deserted island somewhere. (Or maybe that’s just me!)

I was reading Matthew 14 the other day when something jumped out at me. In this particular chapter, John the Baptist is beheaded and his disciples reported to Jesus what had happened.

Matthew 14:13 says, “As soon as Jesus heard the news, he left in a boat to a remote area to be alone.” 

John was Jesus’ cousin, His predecessor, the one who baptized him. This horrible news obviously affected Jesus because immediately He left to be alone, presumably to grieve. The next part of the verse says, “But the crowds heard where he was headed and followed on foot from many towns.”

Jesus’ response is amazing. Verse 14 tells us, “Jesus saw the huge crowd as he stepped from the boat, and he had compassion on them and healed their sick.”

Instead of being annoyed, angry or frustrated that He couldn’t even have a few minutes of private time, Jesus looked at the people with compassion and met their needs. I don’t know about you, but I have experienced times in my life when I was experiencing grief or pain and just wanted to get away, to be alone, to take a break from the multitude of people who always seem to be pulling on me. In those moments, I must admit that my response hasn’t always been like the one Jesus gave. I’m more apt to put on my “Do Not Disturb” sign, avoid them, hide from them or ignore them altogether. Just admitting that brings on the conviction from the Holy Spirit.

How often am I so wrapped up in what is going on in my life that I don’t see the needs of those around me? How often do I just close my eyes to those who are hurting instead of seeing them through the eyes of Jesus? How often do I let the pain I am experiencing cause me to ignore others who also have pain?

I understand there is a balance. Times alone are definitely important. I’m not suggesting that it’s necessary to minister to people 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year without ever taking time to refresh. I’m not saying that it’s not okay to take alone time to receive comfort and peace from God.

It is totally okay. It just can’t be our “go to” response.

If you read toward the end of this passage, after Jesus had healed the sick, after He had fed the multitude, after He had met their needs, as He got ready to go to His next destination, He sent the disciples ahead of Him and spent the time He needed to be alone.

All throughout Jesus’ ministry life He often went away to spend alone time with His Father. The strength He received in those times was what enabled Him to still meet the needs of others even when He was hurting.

First and foremost, our personal time with the Lord is what will enable us to face the challenges of life head on. The strength we receive in those moments of fellowshipping with Him is what will give us the strength to see past our own pain and minister to others who He directs us to.

The next time I am tempted to retreat, I determine to throw away the “Do Not Disturb” sign, keep my eyes and ears open to hear God’s voice and to see with His eyes anyone He may put in my path who might need His comfort and peace in their life.

Will you join me in that commitment?