Category Archives: Integrity

Deadly Viper Silver

DeadlyViperSilverDeadly VIper Character Assassins releases on Thursday. I’m very excited about it. This is one of my favorite leadership books. Yes, my husband co-wrote it with Mike Foster, so I might be a bit biased. But I’ve lead several small groups through it and I think it is the best things out there about integrity and character in leadership. You can check out their Deadly Viper blog.

Here is the info on the book: Deadly VIper Character Assassins is a kung fu inspired book on leadership integrity. With provocative and honest insights on burnout, out of control emotions, sex, money, transparency, and second chances, Deadly Viper is a must read for every leader looking for sustained success. So whether you’re an executive at a large company, a daring entrepreneur, a gifted salesman, or serving at a church or non-profit, Deadly Viper Character Assassins will engage you in the critical conversations about finding true meaning in life and leadership.

So, since it is coming out, of course I must have a give away. Up for grabs: two Deadly Viper sets. That is the book, DVD and Small Group Guide. I will draw for the winner or the book’s release date, Thursday Oct 1st.

How do you enter? Just leave a comment (on my blog, Facebookers) with your favorite kung-fu movie. Don’t have one? Tell me why you don’t love a good kung-fu movie.

My favorite is “Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon.” I also loved “The Crow” in High School. And I will always have a special place in my heart for Daniel-san and his crane kick at the end of “Karate Kid.” How about you?

Dirty Girl Ministries

Wanted to let you guys know about a great ministry that has been started. Since we all work with hurting and broken people in our ministries, I wanted you to know about this amazing resource out there. So, stick this info in your back pocket, I know that it is going to meet an amazing need with hurting women.

About Dirty Girls Ministries
Dirty Girls is a Christian anti-pornography ministry created to help women who struggle with pornography addiction.

About Director, Crystal Renaud
Crystal Renaud is a twenty-something writer and communications professional living in the Kansas City area. As a former porn addict (of 7 years) herself, Crystal has a clear passion and call on her life to help women break free from the addiction to pornography and all forms of sexual sin.

Coaching Network
A monthly roundtable for church and ministry leaders. Discuss women’s pornography addiction in your congregations/communities and how to help, including starting and facilitating recovery groups.

Online Recovery Groups

If you are a woman struggling with a pornography addiction, there’s hope! Register now for one of Dirty Girls Ministries’ upcoming Online Recovery Groups. These groups are designed to help women just like you, overcome pornography addition through accountability, biblical tools and loving support. Register online.

Find Dirty Girl Ministries on the web: TwitterFacebookSeptember Newsletter

And feel free to scour for anything you might find interesting.

Kicking Character Assassins in the Face

Deadly ViperA while ago my fabulous husband, Jud, and his best friend Mike, wrote a really great book called Deadly Viper Character Assassins. If you aren’t familiar with Deadly Viper, you might want to be. It is a great resource for your church, staff, small group, or yourself. In fact, we’ve done a whole message series (which are free downloads on iTunes) around it at Central, and I’ve lead our pastor’s wives through the book as well.


Here is the latest in the battle against the assassins:

1. Deadly Viper, Silver is coming out in September. You can pre-order it here. It will have an extra chapter, a small group discussion guide, additional cartoons and graphics, and some other surprises.


2. You can also download the free audio version of Deadly Viper, but you should really order the book because it is beautiful.


3. There is a Deadly Viper fan page on Facebook where you can keep up with all of the latest news.


4. The follow up book, People of the Second Chance, is in the works. They are writing like mad men … and I know it is going to be great. Oh and of course just as amazing design-wise.


5. You can always read the boys’ thoughts on their blog, or follow Jud and Mike on Twitter.


Anyone read the book? Let me hear your thoughts on it.

The Big Three – MCD 2

blue-stone-window1I remember the first pastor/friend of ours that fell to one of the big three temptations. We loved him … so much. He was wonderful. And was the last person in the world that we would have guessed would have an affair. We were absolutely shocked! And the ripple effect that went out from there was terrible to witness. 


While that was the first, it unfortunately hasn’t been the last. We seen families destroyed. Churches break down the middle. The big three … sex, money, or power … can be devastating.


And while this isn’t a complete look into the issue, I do know that when people are burnt out … tired, weary, stretched beyond themselves … they can be more vulnerable to temptation.


How do you protect your integrity in small ways to keep yourself from falling victim to temptation? What about the protection of your spouse? Your marriage?

You Asked Pt 4

old-windowTammy asked me this great question: How do you allow your husband to lead you in worship when you see all of his imperfectness at home? He obviously has some imperfections b/c he shared them with us at Catalyst. It was refreshing to hear that my husband isn’t the only imperfect church leader out there.


Yep … Jud’s has lots of imperfections. So do I. But he is always the first to admit it and let everyone know about it. One of the things I’m sure he shared at Catalyst and has written about in Deadly Viper Character Assassins is hitting the wall. To make a very long story short … one night when I came back in from the grocery store, I found a dent in the wall in our laundry room. I asked Jud what happened. He looked at me for a second and said, “Your husband … the pastor … hit the wall.” Hit the wall? “Yes, don’t tell anyone about it.” I didn’t say much back, just raised my eyebrows a little. That weekend after our first Saturday night service, my phone rang. “I told everyone that I hit the wall.” You did? “Yes.” Well, what did they say? “I think the guys were just glad they aren’t the only ones.” 


And that is how things usually happen around here. He doesn’t ask me not to tell people any more because he knows he will tell everyone before the week is out. I think our people appreciate it, and I know I really admire his transparency in all areas. I think he is better about that than I am.


While I do see the flaws, I also am blessed to get to see the other things to that our congregation doesn’t get to see. I know how much he prays for them and for the church. I watch him struggle over sermons and his writing. I see how much he cares for the people and how he is constantly trying to figure out how to reach more people for Christ. I know the burden he carries for the church. I know the passion, compassion, the care & concern. Sure, I see the imperfections, but I see all of the great stuff too. And I respect him like crazy for it. And that is why I follow him as my pastor too.


What about you? How do you handle that in your marriage?