That is a great question. First, I should say that I am way out numbered. We have about 130 staff members, about 40 of whom are at the director/pastor level. So even if I met with someone for coffee once a week, I would still only see them once a year. I love our staff … they are the best! I care about them and want to know them. The ladies that I spend the most time with are probably the Exec Team wives. We enjoy getting together with them, but they are also gathering with the staff that they have as well. Everyone is very busy.
I also have a book club that meets one Thursday morning a month. We read the same books that we read here at the Online Book Club. It is open to everyone at the pastor/director level. We have anywhere between 5-15 that come depending on the book and how busy that month was. It has been a wonderful opportunity to get to know & learn from each other.
In 2009, I’m starting a gathering 3 to 4 times a year for staff wives. I am hoping that it will be a time of fun, community building, prayer, and support. We will probably start in February. I’m looking forward to it, and I’m hoping that a few people will want to come. At the end of the day though, I know that I can only make events and opportunities available.
I should say though, that while I am doing all of this now, I used to do nothing. Zero. Nada. I even heard this said about me. I was overwhelmed. Uncomfortable with myself and this role. Scared out of my mind. Insecure and thought I didn’t have anything to offer. Just trying to survive. So, this is all new for our staff too. Some of them probably aren’t sure what to make of it.
How involved are you with the other staff wives/staff at your church or non-profit? And what would you want to do with your Senior Pastor’s wife?