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Leading and Loving It

The High Road…

Posted by Brandi Wilson

Sometimes I sit down to create my “Tuesday” post here at Leading and Loving It and I’m at a loss what to say. Other times I’ve crafted a whole post in my head before I even open my laptop.  And sometimes I make mistakes and part of my learning process is writing about it for you gals.

Guess which avenue I’m coming from today… big, fat, ugly mistake.

It’s a somewhat regular occurrence for people to ask my opinion or feedback as they’re dealing with certain situations.  It’s not because I’m full of wisdom or have a counseling degree, it’s simply because I’m their pastor’s wife.  Most of the time I give pretty decent advice and I try to regularly wrap up by reminding them to “Take the high road.”  The high road being a conscious decision to do the right thing, to stay above board, to ignore your own selfishness and choose to be honorable, to do what’s right even if it doesn’t benefit you directly.

Simply to be the better person.

But sometimes being the better person isn’t natural.  We want to defend ourselves, explain our actions, and even join in with the negative behavior.  I learned a long time ago that the high road is the only path worth taking… but this last week I’ve kinda failed on that a few times.  Heck, even the last 24 hours I initiated a conversation in which I didn’t take the high road.  I’m ashamed to admit I even realized what I was doing while I was talking.  The last couple of weeks I’ve been struggling with a few, let’s just say “issues” going on around me and I’ll just be honest and say I simply got my feelings hurt.  But here’s where I failed myself and those around me… I let my feelings stay hurt, I thought only about myself and my hurt and chose not to pray through it, I didn’t immerse myself in my Bible, in fact I basically ignored that I had any responsibility in the “issue” and just felt sorry for myself.  However, by doing so I allowed Satan to latch onto something I was struggling with, I gave him a foothold and I basically delivered it to him on a silver platter.

So today, regardless of what road blocks you face, regardless of what negative thing might be said about you, regardless of betrayal remember to take the high road. Trust me, it’s the only path worth taking.

Amber Reply:
 August 30th, 2011 at 9:08 am

Thanks! Exactly what I needed to hear today!

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Rebecca Rouse Reply:
 August 30th, 2011 at 9:32 am

This could not have come at a better time! Thank you for this reminder and encouragement – I was just getting ready to post something on my blog about how I have been loosing it in times when I should have held it together. Thank you!

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Brandi Wilson Reply:
 August 30th, 2011 at 7:17 pm

Well, I seem to be experience in losing it when I should have it together too!

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Michelle Meeks Reply:
 August 30th, 2011 at 10:20 am

Thanks Brandi, I love your honesty & heart.
It is an awesome reminder and also nice to know I’m not the only one who slips up.
Sorry you got your feelings hurt

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Brandi Wilson Reply:
 August 30th, 2011 at 7:17 pm

Thanks Michelle!

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Lacey Hartman Reply:
 August 30th, 2011 at 10:28 am

Thank you Brandi for your genuine and open confession! My husband and I faced a very tough season last year, but kept feeling like the two things God was saying to us were: find favor with me and you’ll find favor with man and the greatest act of worship we could give Him was our attitude. It was a tough and challenging season and we def tripped up and took the low road a few times, but are amazed to see those promises of God come through as we stepped into the season we are now experiencing. Thanks for the reminder!

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Brandi Wilson Reply:
 August 30th, 2011 at 7:18 pm

I love hearing your story, Lacey. Thank you so much for sharing and for your example!

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Tiffany Cooper Reply:
 August 30th, 2011 at 3:18 pm

Right on Sister!!!

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Michelle B. Reply:
 August 30th, 2011 at 3:26 pm

Right on target!! Thanks for being transparent.

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Kim Crutchfield Reply:
 August 30th, 2011 at 6:06 pm

So true and thank you for your transparency. A friendly reminder that we are all imperfect..we have to daily strive to “take the high road”.

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Toni Camp Reply:
 August 31st, 2011 at 8:30 am

Thanks Brandi!! Sometimes it gets difficult to always try and take the high road.. sometimes I just want to have myself a little fit.. just for a minute!! Thanks for the encouragement to keep taking the High Road!

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jude Reply:
 August 31st, 2011 at 7:37 pm

thanks, wise words!

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Terri Schultz Reply:
 September 1st, 2011 at 12:46 am

Thanks for allowing us to see your real side. I’ve been there much more often than I’d like to admit.

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