Category Archives: Marriage

Marriage. Call Back.

heartsHope. We’d be goners without it. 

In our friendships. In our families. In our churches and ministries. Especially in our marriages.

I don’t know where you would rate your marriage on a scale from 1 to 10. I don’t know if you would yell from the mountaintop “TEN!” or groan from the pit “Barely a one.” Chances are strong that most of us are just somewhere in between, right?

If you are in that in-between place, the place where you know your marriage isn’t awful but it’s also not exactly where you’d like it to ultimately be, I want you to know I’ve been there. 

I’ve been there on days where you don’t even want to lift your head from your pillow but somehow manage enough strength to do it anyway. I’ve walked through valleys so deep that you wonder if you’ll ever see the light of day again. I’ve experienced so much tremendous pain that I wondered if my heart was literally bleeding. 

But those are days in my past. Today, I have more hope than I ever thought I would. And I am encouraged to share the following excerpt with you in order to bring you more hope:

Call back, and tell me that He went with you into the storm; Call back, and say He kept you when the forest’s roots were torn; That, when the heavens thunder and the earthquake shook the hill, He bore you up and held you where the very air was still. Oh friend, call back, and tell me for I cannot see your face; They say it glows with triumph, and your feet bound in the race; But there are mists between us and my spirit eyes are dim, and I cannot see the glory, though I long for word of Him. But if you’ll say He heard you when your prayer was but a cry, and if you’ll say He saw you through the night’s sin-darkened sky – If you have gone a little way ahead, oh friend, call back – ‘Twill cheer my heart and help my feet along the stony track. 
– Mrs. Charles E. Cowman, Streams in the Desert

I pray you are inspired by the words above. We all need to have someone call back to us in our times of greatest need. So friend, I’m calling back to tell you that God has a bright future and wonderful plans for you. I’m calling back to tell you that He absolutely adores you and that you are the apple of His eye. I’m calling back to say that God is close to the brokenhearted and He will bring you through this circumstance you face.

I promise because He promises and He does not disappoint.

Marriage Devotional. The Clayvilles.

Clayvilles – YouVersion from Chris and Cindy Beall on Vimeo.

The devotional can be found at YouVersion.com. We love our friends at LifeChurch.tv who created YouVersion and are so thankful to put this devotional there for all to use. To locate the devotional, simply CLICK HERE or follow these instructions:

→ Go to YouVersion.com
→ Go to Reading Plans
→ Select “devotional” under category
→ Search “Healthy Practices of Ministry Couples”
→ Begin Plan!

 Share this with any ministry couple you know!!!!

Marriage Devotional. The Bealls.

Marriage Devo from Chris and Cindy Beall on Vimeo.

To locate the devotional at YouVersion, click HERE or follow these instructions:

→ Go to YouVersion.com
→ Go to Reading Plans
→ Select “devotional” under category
→ Search “Healthy Practices of Ministry Couples”
→ Begin Plan!

 Share this with any ministry couple you know!!!!

@YouVersion. Marriage Devotional for Ministry Couples. BOOM.

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At Leading & Loving It, we are a ministry dedicated to equipping, connecting, and impacting pastors’ wives and women in ministry. We hope to encourage healthy women and therefore healthy marriages, healthy families, and healthy ministries.

And we are so excited, SO EXCITED, to be able to share this BRAND NEW resource with you. It is our very first devotional written by 10 of our team members. And it was written not only by our team, but also their husbands! A joint effort was put forth by the couples hoping that it would inspire you and your husband to walk through this devotional together. We know you’ll be blessed.

This 16-day devotional is sure to strengthen your marriage even if you already think it’s great. Whether you are a pastor’s wife or a woman in a full-time ministry role. It doesn’t matter. Ministry is ministry! There are a variety of topics that were written about including communication, finances, making time for one another, dreaming together and even sexual intimacy! (Thanks, Trisha and Justin!)

The devotional can be found at YouVersion.com. We love our friends at LifeChurch.tv who created YouVersion and are so thankful to put this devotional there for all to use. To locate the devotional, simply CLICK HERE or follow these instructions:

→ Go to YouVersion.com
→ Go to Reading Plans
→ Select “devotional” under category
→ Search “Healthy Practices of Ministry Couples”
→ Begin Plan!

 Share this with any ministry couple you know!!!!

Marriage Bloopers. Part 5

This is the last of our Marriage Bloopers Series.

Jenni & Brian Clayville“Blooper” is such a cute word. It’s an “oops”. And it can seem like no big deal. But when we continue to blooper without changing for healthy and the better, the oops/blooper can become a moral failure.

I did that.

We all love to be acknowledged. We want to matter. We want to be worthy and count for something. And let’s be honest… there is NO WAY to be 100% prepared for what marriage is going to be. We grow up reading about the princess meeting the prince, love at first sight and happily ever after. Instead, we are greeted with conflict that naturally arises between two people who lose all their personal space and have been raised in two fairly different families.

A shift happens once we say “I do!”

Bills.
Crisis.
Debt.
Conflict without proper resources to work it out.
Focusing on unmet expectations.
Forgetting to say “I love you.”
Becoming glorified roommates.

The “blooper” I’m gonna talk about is much more than a “blooper”. It was a moral failure. In July of 2006, I chose to step into an affair that changed the course of my life forever.

I don’t want to focus on the affair today though. We can… another day… or you can ask me questions. I’m quite open about it and will talk about whatever you’d like to talk about… but let’s talk about the root of the issue. The affair was the result of a plethora of bloopers that went unchecked… and my affair was simply one possible manifestation of the many that could have happened in the course of malfunction I chose.

In the wake of our three year battle with infertility, my heart needed attention and love. Instead of communicating with Brian in a deep and honest way that I was broken and empty, I made myself believe I would be fine and it would get better… tomorrow. Instead of confiding in a friend that I felt alone, I continued to act as if I had it all together.

It’s amazing how lonely one can feel in a full room of people.

In my failure to partake in true community and communication, I had no other option than to choose darkness and secrecy. In my quest to find my place of belonging, I chose the most heartbreaking rejection instead. My biggest blooper ever… choosing to hide.

Don’t let your fears lead you to isolation. Don’t allow your bloopers to define who you are. Saying “That’s just who I am” and “I’m fine” is no longer a good enough. Be who God has called you to be: Blooper-free!

And for those of us who have bloopered beyond what we think is repairable… I can tell you this: But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. (Romans 5:8). You matter. You were bought with a price. Grace resides in what seems to be the most graceless situations. There IS a tomorrow. We are in this together… so don’t give up.

What have you learned from YOUR bloopers?

You can catch the previous Blooper posts here:
Part 1 – By Cindy Beall
Part 2 – By Jenni Clayville
Part 3 – By Trisha Davis
Part 4 – By Cindy Beall