You see, I stepped off the road into a little hole and rolled my ankle that afternoon. I felt the pain instantly and heard crack of my fibula when my ankle went into a 90° angle. Go ahead and say, “Oh, mercy and grace, Cindy. Why did you tell me that? Ewww.”
So what does my broken leg have to do with this marriage post? A. Lot. This little problem instantly put a burden not only on my spirits, but also on my marriage. Oh, it was nothing life threatening because we’ve already been down that road. But it was enough to strain us because it took us immediately into a new place of my husband pulling double duty while I laid on the bed with my foot elevated for the better part of the first week. Did I mention that it was my right leg? No driving for me.
I don’t know if you are similar to me, but I run our home. All of it. My husband’s position at church is wonderful and he loves it, but he has a lot of responsibilities. Because of that, I have taken the roll of Home Engineer at the Beall Casa and make sure things run smoothly. And I may or may not use an Excel Spreadsheet to help me accomplish my duties as Domestic Goddess. So to say that this little broken leg didn’t work into my plan, is the understatement of the year.
My husband was a trooper and still is through all of this. We are on the tail end of my recovery and he has stepped up and done things that he didn’t know how to do very well. He has adjusted his schedule in order to chauffer me around. He has made grilled-cheese sandwiches on more than one occasion and has brought me my morning coffee many, many times.
Friends, things happen. Difficult times come. Unfortunate situations arise. And many times, these types of occurrences put a strain on the relationships in our life…especially our marriages. Whether you are planting a church, leading a church, or are in another role at your church or organization, recognize that seasons of hard times come and go. It will not always be like this. I know this well.
My challenge to you today is threefold:
1) Tell your husband how much you appreciate all he does for your church, for his work, and for your family TODAY. (If you make this weekly habit, you won’t feel nearly as uncomfortable doing it on a regular basis.)
2) If you are facing a difficult situation right now in your marriage, ask God to show you your contribution to it and ask your husband’s forgiveness for your part. (Allow the Holy Spirit to deal with your husband. It’s not your job to convict.)
3) Commit James 1:2-3 to memory. “Consider it pure joy, my brothers (and sisters), whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.” (italics mine) Because Sister, if you ever break your leg this will become your mantra.
Have you ever had a situation similar to mine where you were hurt or sick and your husband had to pull double duty? Do share!