Category Archives: Marriage

Marriage and Children.

NoahThis guy was born 15 years ago today. Sigh.

Chris and I had just celebrated our sixth wedding anniversary when Noah Christopher Beall joined the scene. We were overly ecstatic about going from a couple to a family of three. He was God’s promise to us since we had waited for him for nearly four years.

Up until his arrival, we pretty much did as we pleased. We went to dinners and movies and could just decide on a whim that we were going to go see some friends any evening of the week. And if we wanted to get really crazy, we could stay until midnight OR EVEN LATER at said friend’s house because we had no children.

We loved becoming parents. LOVED it. But, it did have its own set of challenges when Chris would want me to do something for him RIGHT THEN because I used to be able to drop everything but now I couldn’t because our firstborn was crying due to an empty stomach. Or I would expect Chris to be at my beck and call and take me out to dinner because we could but he was making sure that he provided for our family and was wise with our finances since I no longer worked outside the home. 

I feel Chris and I have handled the wonderful addition of children well. We’ve loved them, cared for them and provided for them while still maintaining a healthy marriage. There were seasons where we had to work harder than ever. There were seasons where it was easy. Easy like Sunday morning easy.

(Lionel, Sunday mornings are not easy for ministry couples. Just sayin’.)

And the reason we worked hard at making sure we were “still a couple” while we have children in our home is because we know that these boys of ours will one day leave home and we will be a “just a couple” again. 

(I don’t know whether to shout like a cheerleader or cry a river of tears.)

Children are a gift from God. We are to cherish, train, pray for and love them. But we can’t forget about our marriages in the midst of all the crazy. Our children thrive when they see mom and dad healthy, strong and united. 

No matter where you are in your journey of raising children, I want to encourage you and challenge you to take an inventory of your marriage. Regardless of where you are, make a commitment to make your marriage the best it can be today.

Are you making sure that your marriage is healthy, strong and united? Or are you giving your blessed union your emotional and physical leftovers?

Marriage. Call Back.

heartsHope. We’d be goners without it. 

In our friendships. In our families. In our churches and ministries. Especially in our marriages.

I don’t know where you would rate your marriage on a scale from 1 to 10. I don’t know if you would yell from the mountaintop “TEN!” or groan from the pit “Barely a one.” Chances are strong that most of us are just somewhere in between, right?

If you are in that in-between place, the place where you know your marriage isn’t awful but it’s also not exactly where you’d like it to ultimately be, I want you to know I’ve been there. 

I’ve been there on days where you don’t even want to lift your head from your pillow but somehow manage enough strength to do it anyway. I’ve walked through valleys so deep that you wonder if you’ll ever see the light of day again. I’ve experienced so much tremendous pain that I wondered if my heart was literally bleeding. 

But those are days in my past. Today, I have more hope than I ever thought I would. And I am encouraged to share the following excerpt with you in order to bring you more hope:

Call back, and tell me that He went with you into the storm; Call back, and say He kept you when the forest’s roots were torn; That, when the heavens thunder and the earthquake shook the hill, He bore you up and held you where the very air was still. Oh friend, call back, and tell me for I cannot see your face; They say it glows with triumph, and your feet bound in the race; But there are mists between us and my spirit eyes are dim, and I cannot see the glory, though I long for word of Him. But if you’ll say He heard you when your prayer was but a cry, and if you’ll say He saw you through the night’s sin-darkened sky – If you have gone a little way ahead, oh friend, call back – ‘Twill cheer my heart and help my feet along the stony track. 
– Mrs. Charles E. Cowman, Streams in the Desert

I pray you are inspired by the words above. We all need to have someone call back to us in our times of greatest need. So friend, I’m calling back to tell you that God has a bright future and wonderful plans for you. I’m calling back to tell you that He absolutely adores you and that you are the apple of His eye. I’m calling back to say that God is close to the brokenhearted and He will bring you through this circumstance you face.

I promise because He promises and He does not disappoint.

Marriage Devotional. The Clayvilles.

Clayvilles – YouVersion from Chris and Cindy Beall on Vimeo.

The devotional can be found at YouVersion.com. We love our friends at LifeChurch.tv who created YouVersion and are so thankful to put this devotional there for all to use. To locate the devotional, simply CLICK HERE or follow these instructions:

→ Go to YouVersion.com
→ Go to Reading Plans
→ Select “devotional” under category
→ Search “Healthy Practices of Ministry Couples”
→ Begin Plan!

 Share this with any ministry couple you know!!!!

@YouVersion. Marriage Devotional for Ministry Couples. BOOM.

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At Leading & Loving It, we are a ministry dedicated to equipping, connecting, and impacting pastors’ wives and women in ministry. We hope to encourage healthy women and therefore healthy marriages, healthy families, and healthy ministries.

And we are so excited, SO EXCITED, to be able to share this BRAND NEW resource with you. It is our very first devotional written by 10 of our team members. And it was written not only by our team, but also their husbands! A joint effort was put forth by the couples hoping that it would inspire you and your husband to walk through this devotional together. We know you’ll be blessed.

This 16-day devotional is sure to strengthen your marriage even if you already think it’s great. Whether you are a pastor’s wife or a woman in a full-time ministry role. It doesn’t matter. Ministry is ministry! There are a variety of topics that were written about including communication, finances, making time for one another, dreaming together and even sexual intimacy! (Thanks, Trisha and Justin!)

The devotional can be found at YouVersion.com. We love our friends at LifeChurch.tv who created YouVersion and are so thankful to put this devotional there for all to use. To locate the devotional, simply CLICK HERE or follow these instructions:

→ Go to YouVersion.com
→ Go to Reading Plans
→ Select “devotional” under category
→ Search “Healthy Practices of Ministry Couples”
→ Begin Plan!

 Share this with any ministry couple you know!!!!