Archive for the ‘family’ Category

A God We Cannot See…

Tuesday, November 24th, 2009

One of the questions we hear most often here at Leading and Loving It is “What tips do you have for raising children in ministry?” And to be honest it’s always the question I ask when I get time with adult PKs.  My children are still relatively small so I’m doing my learning as I go, but our oldest, Jett,  took a step of faith that left Pete and myself speechless.  I didn’t write the following post, my husband did.  I started to record this story from my perspective, but Pete’s was so beautiful that I decided to share it with you all.

As a father I feel as if I have the responsibility to teach my boys a lot of different things. Here’s just a few I’ve been thinking of…

How to ride a bike.

How to shave.

How to tie a tie.

How to dribble a ball.

How to love people you don’t like.

How to jump off really high stuff.

How to do a push-up.

How to understand women.

How to treat a woman.

But the most important thing I want to teach my boys…

How to trust a God they cannot see.

This past Sunday I watched hundreds of people make their commitment to Faith, Hope, & Love. Each commitment represented someone trusting God in a new and unique way. But the pledge that caught my attention was the one my 8 year old son filled out.

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He pledged $50 (that he doesn’t have) to the vision of Cross Point Church. He later told me that God would provide a way for him to fulfill his commitment. This card represents a lot more than fifty bucks. It represents what is hopefully just the first of many adventures my son will have trusting a God he cannot see.

What do you want to make sure you’re teaching your kids?

Every Healthy Family Needs …

Tuesday, October 6th, 2009

Remember the “Who is your pastor” guy? Well, he said something else that has been rolling around in my brain.

He said: Every healthy family needs a mom and dad. Every church family needs a mom and dad too.

Not a mom and dad in a condescending kind of way, but in a supportive, caring, loving, encouraging kind of way.

What do you think about this statement? True or not true?

And if true, what would it look like:

- in a church of 50 … 500 … or 5000? Is it possible with so many people?

- in your youth group?

- in your multi-site campus?

- on your staff?

- in your children’s ministry?

- with your volunteers and leaders?

Thoughts?

Banned TV

Monday, September 7th, 2009

When I was growing up there were a few things that were banned from the TV at our house.

#1. Three’s Company. My parents wouldn’t let us watch that show. At the time I didn’t understand. For me, it just meant to make sure to watch re-runs while my mom was at work.

#2. Dallas. I remember sneaking and peeking around the corner trying to catch a bit while my parents were watching. Later when I was in High School my parents made me visit South Fork during my Spring Break.

#3MTV. When I was a Freshman, our whole town … yes, whole town … decided to block MTV. The cable company blocked it from every household. The only way to get MTV after that was for the adults to call and unblock it. Since I ran home everyday after school to watch Pauley Shore, I was incredibly dismayed. I had friends who picketed the cable company to no avail. MTV was blocked and my parents wouldn’t unblock it. So … I became one of the worst babysitters in town since I would put people’s kids down 30 minutes earlier than the parents said so that I could watch the contra-banned channel elsewhere.

We have a few “kid” shows that are banned at our house. I’m hoping that my kids are better than I was and not sneaking around already. Thank goodness there are 10 million kid channels and lots of options to choose from.

What was banned at your house growing up? And do you have off-limit shows now?

Parenting and Leadership

Wednesday, September 2nd, 2009

Back with my friend, Donna to talk about raising kids in leadership. I got sick of looking at the side of my head during our little chats, so she handled this one on her own.

Make sure to check out my other chats with Donna about criticism, finding limits, and relationships.

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What is your best parenting advice for people in leadership?

Baby on Board

Tuesday, August 11th, 2009

Change #2 – A baby. When we drove across the desert to move to Vegas, it was about 115 degrees, and I was massively pregnant. Five weeks after we arrived, I had our Ethan. We already had a two year old, Emma who has always been our calm, rule follower. If Ethan’s eyes are open … he is going full speed … all the time! He is a bundle of fun. Adding to the family is an exciting and wonderful time. It is fun and joyful. And it is also exhausting and stressful. It is a huge change for any family in any situation.

Having infants and toddlers at home really changed my level of involvement in leadership. Maybe it is just me, but I don’t get out much for a while after I’ve had a baby. And when you add a toddler in tow as well, it is really difficult. Kids changed the way I did ministry. It wasn’t bad – I love my kids – I wouldn’t trade them for anything. But it was definitely a transition.

The biggest change for me was mainly time. I just didn’t have as much. And what I did have seemed to pass far too quickly.

What was the biggest change for you when you added to your family? How did you ministry change? How did this transition affect your leadership?

*This was originally posted May ‘08 and has now been updated.

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